My notes on the sexual scene in India. 50F
I have been dating since the last 7 odd years (never did before that). Have dated men between 19 to 55, and this is what I observe about the sexual scene in India. It's slightly long, but have tried to mention everything I came across. I have also talked to a lot of women so this is not just my observation.
Warning/Disclaimer: This is MY experience, not what YOU may feel, so please be kind. Casual sex is risky, can lead to diseases. Extra-Marital Affairs help no one!
- Sex post marriage is a disaster for most couples. Very few couples do it more than twice a week. Both masturbate regularly. Most female sex toys are bought by married women than single ones. Oral sex is rare and an unfulfilled desire among both men and women. Women dont like to give blowjobs and husbands don't know how to arouse their wives. Most marital sex is done in a hurry and quickly forgotten. There is hardly any intimacy. Female Orgasm during sex is a rarity post marriage, hence the feeling of emptiness and desire for other men.
- Most older women desire young men. While this may not be a surprise, you would be amazed at the number of middle aged, happily married women having affairs. Gym trainers, office colleagues, neighbours - it's rampant. We blame men for affairs, but many women are equally desperate for companionship and praise (more than sex). Lessons: Husbands - Romance your wives, try to excite and satisfy them sexually. Leaving them unfulfilled will not be good for your marriage in the long run, believe me (you dont want her fucking some random guy). Make her Orgasm! And dont blame the wife alone for a dead bedroom! Having an affair will lead you to the same situation after sometime. Wives - I know you dont feel romantic/sexually attractive around your husband, but marriage is a two way street. Try to do your bit, understand what works for both of you, get intimate emotionally AND physically with him. Fucking your old flame, ex or office colleague may be fun initially but will lead no where.
- I personally know NOT even a SINGLE happily married woman (with a fulfilling sex life) posing stylish or sexy solo pics on her Instagram/Socials. That's just an outlet of the desire to feel liked and attractive. If you see someone posting even slightly edgy solo content, you can guess she is unfulfilled and/or susceptible to a relationship. We can argue endlessly about this point, but I stand by what I say.
- Men are infidel and horny - only the shame of exposure is restraining them for having multiple affairs. Many men have no respect for their marriages.
- Sugar daddies are a reality, more than you can imagine. Many attractive women realise that while they can have sex anytime with whoever they want, they can also get paid for it alongside. This has made dating an attractive woman a very competitive game. Just look at the number of young girls having their OF or paid accounts here to get a sense of how prevalent this is. A beautiful sexy young woman can easily make a decent pocket money just by posting her racy content. Not ALL do this of course but a LOT are doing this.
- Bull(shit) - Even if you are looking for purely sexual relationship, bulls are useless. Don't even try. Thank you.