confusion- need help please!what would you do? asking for both sides!
So me and my boyfriend broke up a week ago. I was at his place(we live an hour and 30 minutes away from each other) and he realized I’ve broken our promise which was something to do with my mental health, nothing about cheating nor anything like that!! Obviously there was a lot of stuff I also did, starting pointless arguments, being sad and stuff like that…
So after that he said he wants to have a break after I go home, I said okay and we had it for like 2 days and on the 3rd day he texted me what do I think about the relationship and stuff and we made up that we will continue it.
But after 2 days we had a talk again(this was all through messages) and he said he thinks it’s the best we end things. I called him and we talked, obviously I cried on the phone and asked if we can try to see how it goes and he basically said he doesn’t think he will feel the same as he did at the beginning of the relationship.
Now it’s been a week since the break(not the breakup) and we had a talk last night that he said he is confused about him and the relationship, and he said in his head he has two things:
He stays and we keep a chill relationship and see how it goes, if things change or not, and then we will end it if nothing changes and his feelings don’t improve. He said I’m all he ever wanted, that I have everything he ever searched for in a girl and he wishes he could just go back and love and feel the same like before.
He just leaves and moves on
Im going to his place on Friday, to take my stuff I left there and to say bye to his family.
But overall however it turns out I’ve learned a lot and I’m improving my day to day life, having to fall in love with myself again.
Through this whole thing I realized I really am selfish at some times and I need to work on myself much harder so I can finally get love for myself back after years of trying to love anybody without loving myself first, which always ended with me being insecure and ruining the relationship.
Im young and I have a lot in front of me, goals, plans for the future, and I wouldn’t mind sharing it with someone.