Does anyone else get anxiety when you make a decision for yourself, or express a boundary that is potentially disappointing to someone else and they DON'T make a big deal out of it?

Like why does it feel so wrong? I swear everytime I feel the pressure of what someone else wants and I initially decide I don't want the same thing and instead of giving in, I express that I don't want it, and, as soon as they are fine with it my brain panics and suddenly I do want it, more than anything, and I hate the fact that they don't care. Why does my brain change its mind like that? Why does my brain want to create a problem when everything was perfectly fine?